What’s Wrong With Homosexuality?

What’s Wrong With Homosexuality?

A Common-sense Perspective Which is No Longer Common

 

Christopher Andrus

September 15, 2014

 

 

  1. It’s wrong to assume that all those who believe and affirm that homosexuality is wrong are bigots or “homophobes”.

 

Indeed, there are certainly cruel people who will hate those who are caught up in homosexuality, just as there are other types of bigots. But Christians who sincerely believe that homosexuality is sinful and who seek to appeal, as fellow sinners, to people caught up in this behavior to forsake their sin are actually trying to do the loving thing for such people, based on what we are convinced is true. You may disagree with our beliefs, but it is completely unfair for you to simply ignore them and accuse us of sinister motives.

 

From our point-of-view, warning people caught up in homosexuality of the error of their ways is spiritually equivalent to warning someone who is speeding down a road toward a bridge which is out that they need to stop and turn around. Certainly some motorists receiving such a warning might be skeptical or, even, annoyed by it at the time.  But, in reality, the one warning them is obviously trying to do a good thing.  Indeed, one who would fail to make such a warning would actually be guilty of negligent disregard for others.  In other words, we are acting out of a desire to help others avoid harm or destruction.  That is love, not hate.  And this would be the case even if we were wrong.

 

Furthermore, since we see the consequences of homosexuality to be so dire, we are willing to be so bold as to go against the trend of our culture to try to persuade others to turn back from this path. This does not come from fear.  Indeed, it is actually quite bold and courageous to do this today.  Again, this would still be the case even if we were wrong in our beliefs.  Courage is still courage even if it is for something which is wrong.  So we are asking that you would be willing to consider why we believe this.  And it’s not that we single out homosexuality.  We seek to warn all who refuse to acknowledge and repent from their sins in the same way, as people who have already done this and continue to do so.

 

So, the term “homophobia” is a misnomer. Also, the common charge that anyone who is opposed to homosexuality is a self-loathing, closet homosexual is clearly false, because, if this were true, then the majority of all people throughout history have been “closet homosexuals”!  For, the vast majority of humanity both in the past and the present has believed that homosexuality is perverse and wrong (including the majority of the world’s two biggest religions: Christianity and Islam).

 

 

  1. Sexual behavior is something which must be learned by all people. It can either be learned correctly, according to the design of the human body, or not. And, even if one develops a defective tendency/orientation, this can be unlearned and re-oriented in the proper direction, which is faithful, monogamous heterosexuality.

 

First, anyone who is willing to look objectively at their own past can recognize that they had to learn how to perform sexually, one way or another. Though things which initially arouse a person are not chosen, whether or not we continue to seek arousal and gratification through these things is a matter of choice.  Accordingly, we can choose to resist deviant impulses and pursue normal human sexuality, which is monogamous heterosexuality, or we can choose to reinforce deviant arousal patterns (tendencies) through repetition, thus making them preferences or orientations.  This is clearly seen with sexual addictions to pornography or various types of “adventurous” sexual behavior with others, such as heterosexual promiscuity and the many “exotic” forms of sexual gratification.  Addiction is the appropriate term, since all forms of sexual deviance resemble classic addictions in tending to drive one to pursue more and more extreme behavior in order to get the desired pay-off and also in their tendency to become increasingly obsessive/compulsive behavior patterns.

 

Second, sexual tendencies/orientations can be changed. Most men and many women have actually experienced this already in learning how to go from masturbation as their means of sexual gratification to sexual relations with others.  For, it is clearly the case that masturbation and sex with others are completely different sexual behaviors.  Anyone who has made this transition knows that one has to learn how to perform sexually with another (whether or the same or opposite sex).  Furthermore, many people who were previously caught up in homosexual tendencies and orientations have successfully overcome them and become faithful married heterosexuals.  Those who say that this can’t happen are simply lying.  The fact that most people who do this sometimes experience desires to go back to their previous pattern does not mean that their previous pattern was “natural” for them.  Rather, these desires are really no different than any other type of sexual temptation, which most married people are prone to experience in one way or another.  It also shows a false bias to assume that people who go from heterosexuality to homosexuality are doing what is natural for them, but not people who go from homosexual behavior to heterosexual.  Actually, all the evidence shows that to do the latter is to go from what is un-natural to what is natural.

 

Third, regardless of how appealing or enjoyable a sexual activity is, this doesn’t make it right or healthy. After all, stealing is appealing to thieves.  Most can easily understand this with pedophiles, rapists, and those who take advantage of adult prostitutes or engage in other types of demonstrably dangerous sexual behavior (such as suffocation to achieve climax or serial adultery).  And, it is important to note that, in the latter cases, this behavior, like adult homosexual relations, is consensual.  (I would add that pedophilia is far more commonly associated with homosexuality than heterosexuality, since the majority of such cases are male-on-boy, despite the fact that there are far more heterosexuals than male homosexuals.  This is one of many dirty secrets about homosexuality which today’s “politically-correct” culture seeks to bury.  Such is also the case with the dramatically higher rates of AIDS and other sexually-transmitted diseases among male homosexuals, as well as higher rates of drug abuse, domestic violence, depression and suicide, the latter of which I will address a little later.)

 

Fourth, to say that having homosexual impulses shows that one is actually a homosexual by nature is simply absurd. Most people who consider themselves homosexual (including virtually all women) actually are able to have relations with people of the opposite sex.  This actually points to heterosexuality being natural, along with further evidence will be given under the next point.  Thus, people who pursue homosexuality or other types of deviant sexuality simply choose (incorrectly) to forsake normal development in favor of what they have become comfortable doing.  This is exactly what Romans 1:26-27 says.

 

 

  1. Homosexuality is against Nature, as a rejection of normal reproduction.

 

First, the most basic facts of anatomy and reproduction prove that homosexuality is a perversion of sexual impulse and misuse of the human body. Second, the notion that it is common in Nature is absurd.  Animals which forsake normal reproduction fail to perpetuate their line and support the survival of their species.  That different species can be observed to engage in same-sex play prior to maturity or to cohabitate as same-sex pairs or groups (which is simply herding or flocking behavior) bears no resemblance to long-term same-sex sexual relationships.  Only humans have the latter.  Third, there is no evidence whatsoever that homosexuality is genetic.  Fourth, even if it could be found that there is a genetic component, the fact that homosexuality is a trait which actually prevents normal reproduction would mean that it is a genetic defect!

 

 

  1. Homosexuality is against God’s will for humanity, as the inevitable guilt and shame which it produces shows; which, in turn, leads to significantly higher levels of alienation, depression, drug abuse, and suicide. Furthermore, men caught up in this lifestyle also incur significantly higher rates of sexually-transmitted and other types of diseases.

 

The tragic epidemic of teen suicides among people with homosexual tendencies (especially young people) is not due to those who believe homosexuality is wrong. The fact is that the suicide rate among those involved in homosexuality has actually increased dramatically in recent years, even though there is more cultural support for homosexuality today than in the past and anti-homosexual expression is increasingly frowned upon and, even, punished.  This points to the real reason why many young people with homosexual tendencies or orientations are dying:  because they are being encouraged by the culture to ignore their consciences, which tell them that homosexuality is wrong.  It is true that many long-practicing homosexuals have seared their consciences by training themselves to ignore what their consciences tell them (though we say that this will eventually fail).  But many others are unable to do this, so their guilt and shame only increase, and, if they continue to do what they know is wrong, this will lead to an increasing inner conflict, which, in turn, naturally leads to alienation, depression, despair and even suicide.

 

Therefore, it is a gross distortion to blame depression and suicides among people caught up in homosexuality on those who believe and affirm that homosexuality is wrong. It is also important to realize that, while people can be pushed to consider suicide for various reasons, it is actually a fallacy that one can be forced by others to take one’s own life.  Suicide is actually the most individual choice anyone can make.  For example, even if one literally put a loaded gun to the head of another and demanded that the other person pull the trigger this would still be the choice of the person pulling the trigger.  Lastly, if we really want to reduce suicides, we need to go back to the old way of thinking: that suicide is wrong, a profoundly selfish and weak act, which does great and undeserved harm to others.

 

 

  1. The Good News in all of this is that there is a Way to be delivered from a guilty conscience due to homosexuality (without suppressing it, only to have the guilt return eventually), as well as from this terribly destructive life choice, or, for that matter, from any other sinful lifestyle. God will do this for all who:

 

Admit to God that “I am a sinner in need of salvation.”

Believe that God sent His Eternal Son, Jesus Christ, in order to save us from our sins, and that He sent His Holy Spirit to dwell in us and make us holy.

Commit to Christ as our Savior and Lord.

 

It’s as simple as this “A-B-C”. Homosexuality and other sinful inclinations and patterns can be overcome.  There are many living today who have done so.  Again, those who deny this are simply lying.  So go ahead haters and rant against this.  But what you can’t do is refute it.

5 thoughts on “What’s Wrong With Homosexuality?

  1. It’s as simple as this “A-B-C”. Homosexuality and other sinful inclinations and patterns can be overcome.

    You’ll need to provide solid scientific evidence for this claim, which currently goes againsty all scientific evidence. You don’t need to inclide “sin” among the things to prove of course: it’s a purely religious – and therefore subjective – concept.

    There are many living today who have done so.

    Please produce evidence for this as well. Even Exodus International has admitted its failure in this regard, so you may find it a bit of an uphill job.

    Again, those who deny this are simply lying. So go ahead haters and rant against this. But what you can’t do is refute it.

    You misunderstand the burden of proof. It is for you to provide evidence for your claims, not for others to refute them. No evidence? Then the claims can be summarily dismissed.

    • I want to thank you, first of all for taking the time to engage what I have written. I always appreciate those who are willing to engage in a reasonable way those who hold contrary views. This all too rare today, especially with this emotionally-charged issue. Having done so, I pray and hope that you will be willing to read my response with a fair and open mind.

      First, Science simply hasn’t proven that homosexuality is genetic nor that it isn’t changeable. And for anyone to say that it is normal is a denial of simple facts of anatomy and reproduction, along with the fact that it can’t be considered normal statistically. People claim these things all the time these days, not because there is evidence for this, but because they want them to be true. The desire for people to see things as they want them to be in this area is so strong that the testimony of countless people that they have overcome homosexuality is commonly dismissed as self-delusion and denial, despite abundant evidence to the contrary.

      But the real denial and delusion is on the side of those who reject what every major religious tradition and the vast of majority of humanity throughout history have been convinced of – that homosexuality is abnormal and harmful, but changeable. Please answer this: Why is it commonly assumed today that people who have any homosexual experience or inclinations must be natural homosexuals, who should follow these inclinations rather than heterosexual ones; but, on the other hand, people who practice homosexuality but who also have heterosexual experience (which is quite common) are almost never considered to be natural heterosexuals? Is this not simply an arbitrary, pro-homosexual bias?

      Depending on how old you are, you may lack a historical perspective on this. The consensus of our culture has gone to an extreme position on this issue in particular just within the past 30 years or so. People who aren’t aware of this are likely to consider today’s views as normal, but they aren’t.

      There are ex-homosexuals in thousands of Bible-believing churches. I have met or heard testimonies of many of them. Furthermore, it is commonly recognized (and joked about) in our culture that a lot of women try out homosexuality in college before finding a husband and becoming normal (Yes, normal!) sexually. And many men are able to have relations with women but simply prefer men. These are indisputable facts on which there is widespread agreement on both sides.

      As for Exodus International, I am pretty well aware of what happened and know that this was an organizational failure due to leadership issues, and, especially, an overly-simplistic understanding of how homosexuality is overcome by many involved in the ministry. Most of the people involved in this ministry are still following the path they were on but are simply doing so without the support of this ministry. Though I stress that homosexuality can be overcome, I am also aware that it is far from easy and usually involves a life-long commitment to resist sinful urges and pursue proper ones. Actually, this is the norm for all sorts of sinful tendencies (including my own). I see this as the true meaning of Christ’s call to take up our crosses and follow Him. In other words, in this regard, homosexuality is no different than any other sin issue.

      This is actually very good news for those involved with homosexuality (though most churches don’t understand this nearly as well as they should). However, the Bible also says that sexual sins are worse than other sins because they are sins against one’s own body. They are also harder to overcome than other life-controlling sins (like substance abuse) because, with sexuality, we cannot avoid carrying the abused object around with us everyday. Unfortunately, many Christians have been misled to expect that God will deliver them instantly and completely from homosexuality (or other sinful tendencies). This was part of the problem with Exodus. I have heard of people who have suddenly had all homosexual desires disappear and never come back. But this is rare. The norm is for people to continue to deal with desires for many years and, in some cases, for the rest of their lives. But the good news is that whether or not one indulges desires is always a matter of choice and God immeasurably blesses those who commit themselves to fighting sinful desires and pursuing righteous ones and forgives us whenever we fall into sin, as long as we confess our sins and renew our commitment to holiness. I pray that this will be helpful to you.

      • “First, Science simply hasn’t proven that homosexuality is genetic nor that it isn’t changeable.”

        Wrong on both counts. There is certainly evidence for a genetic component and there is no evidence that sexuality can be modified.

        The rest of your problem is purely personal.

  2. Sorry, but you are living in fantasyland, in denial of what should be completely obvious. Eventually, reality will catch up with you. I only hope and pray that you wake up from your delusions (along with millions of deceived today, who have been brainwashed by a anti-Christian culture). It is the epitome of irrationalism for someone to dismiss the lengthy reply which I gave you, filled with rational and fact-based arguments, as simply a “personal problem” and to make completely unsupported (and actually false) assertions as you do in your reply.

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